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Topic: Married & had sex with someone else
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Aries
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posted 09-15-104 05:42 PM
I've been with my man for 13 years & love him, after 13 years we still have good sex & I never thought I would stray but whilst camping a couple of weeks ago, I ended up in the arms of another man after my man had gone to bed & the sexual tension was out of this world, my pussy wouldn't stop vibrating with sexuality & still hasn't. Since arriving home I am as horny as fuck, I can't stop thinking about my lover who I told - I love my husband & sorry, but I can't stop thinking about my lover. Would it be so wrong to have 2 men in my life? |
laughingattherain
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posted 09-16-104 09:55 AM
You did this while your husband was there?!?! What were you thinking? How can you say you love your husband when you don't have any respect for him? Of course it would be wrong to have both men in your life, you're married!! It would be extremely selfish to continue sleeping with this guy. Have some respect for husband, and for yourself. Really, look at the kind of person you're being, are you proud of what you're doing? |
Lady Raven
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posted 09-16-104 09:57 AM
 
Is this a joke? |
ladybug
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posted 09-16-104 06:37 PM
...and while you're at it, have some respect for your body, both in language and in the physical. |
toman
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posted 09-17-104 01:26 AM
hah. I can't claim to be an expert on the subject, but here's my take: People get horny and like to go at it. It doens't have to mean anything; if both of you are comfortable in your relationship and trust each other, discuss it. If it's an issue, try to figure out why, it's probably a bind that needs to be worked out anyway. |
GUY
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posted 09-17-104 11:32 AM
You know what if your sex has been that good for a long time. You need your hornyness why not try a threesome. Think you love your husband and you love havin sex with this guy and your husband you could enjoy it or have it backfire. |
RevHallford
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posted 09-17-104 03:23 PM
Honesty is always the best policy.This may be an aged cliche, however, it is truth to live by. IMHO, you have two choices.
1.) You can speak with your husband about what has occured. In which case he might agree that it is an acceptable turn in your relationship. However, and only you can judge his reaction, be aware of the possibility he may be upset. His views might have been different if you had discussed this possibility with him first. 2.) You can choose to take it to the grave and never let your husband know.
If you choose the second option(again, this is all my opinion, I am not providing counseling, merely stating my opinion) The kindest thing to do would be to cease and desist with the new guy.
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Lady Raven
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posted 09-19-104 10:41 AM
Is there an anti-marriage movement happening? It seems as though a lot of people are into this now. I have met more people in the last year into infidelity than any other time of my life. Where is this coming from? I mentioned what I did on line about six months ago and now the issue is exploding. I did a wrong thing and I will never ever do it again. I feel sick even thinking about it now. DON'T DO IT. Please.
Marriage is a good thing, please don't take it as something to be broken lightly. |
Z-cat
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posted 11-30-104 07:14 AM
As much as we love our liberal views and the spawn of the hippie movement, free love, and the notion of "if it feels good, do it!" as conceptual way of life, this *can* cultivate a sense of individualism and self-fulfilling gratification.I think of marriage as a comingling of selves, give/take, self sacrifice to cater to your partner. Self-fulfillment is self-directed and thus an antithesis to partnering with another person. Well, unless your self-fulfillment is predominately enriched by bringing happiness to your mate. For most it (marriage/relationships) starts out that way -- for many, they "lose the vision" or the vision becomes blurred over time. Like perdy much everythang, one has to maintain a 10,000-foot view of one's life to ensure we don't hyperfocus in one way or the other, you know? Like being so fixated on your marriage/relationship you lose yourself. Conversely, we need to make sure we don't overly focus on doing what's best for us, because then we are vulnerable to stepping on our loved one or ones, where kids are involved. If it feels good, do it -- but make sure "feels good" is a feel-good for the spirit and those you love, too. Meeting physical, sexual and emotional needs are important, but there's more than one way to skin a cat, right? So making a short story long, I think the proliferation of violation of partnerships might be partly tied to the persuit of self gratification -- but by the same token, it's not something totally new, and it's hard to say if it's even more rampant today or simply more out in the open that it was, say, 100 years ago. much love and understanding to all -- life is a series of trials and errors, successes and failures, hopefully gradually guiding us to what's right for us as individual people interacting within our circle of influence. The *right way* is not always clear cut, nor is there a single *right way* for everyone. wuv, - Z-cat..... | |
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