wedding tips

[gratefulbride]

i am getting married october, 2005. i am having an outdoor wedding in a state park in indiana. i am very excited to be married in the middle of the pretty colors of the fall trees. however, i was looking for any neato ideas that anyone may have for a "hippie" wedding. i want everyone to be barefoot for starters. i am also looking for any non-taditional things to include, especially music. i do not want to walk to "here comes the bride".....i am going to have the processional (the walking away at the end) be rusted root "send me on my way"

any song or other ideas would be greatly appreciated!
thanks, and have a wonderful day!

[redthewitch75]

Wear a crown of flowers. I have all kinds of ideas, but that's just me, I don't know your personal preferences.

[2veggiebabes]

We are going to be officially married in April 2005.
We have decided to have drumming for our walk. Our ceremony will be an Indian custom that will consist of seven steps around a fire.
It will be outside between two very old walnut trees.

[mamasharones]

I think "we bid you goodnight" by the dead would be a great ending to your reception (letting everyone know it's time to go) I always loved John Lennons "stand by me" but god knows how many weddings that's seen! GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!

[gratefulbride]

these are all great tips, thanks and keep it coming

[julesandjo]

I always wanted a "hippie" wedding, but kinda had quickie weddings both times and didn't have any long term plans or anything. Anyway, when me and my husband got married at the courthouse he knew I was disappointed that we weren't going to have a hippie wedding so he went out and got some of the wire rimmed sunglasses and he wore shorts and a nice casual shirt with his sandals and then when the guy asked the vows and stuff my husband says "I dig man" out of the blue. Made me smile. Here we were with our sunglasses on and his hair was pretty grown out at the time too. I was not dressed accordingly, but that was okay. And we still have the rest of our lives, right? We can always renew our vows and do what we really want. And if we don't, it's okay. We have other things we are achieving together. Anyway, although I don't personally have any regrets I would suggest to anyone who wants it and has the time to plan that they go all out and have exactly what they want and have fun doing it. I have NEVER understood those who absolutely freak out over every minor and major detail of their wedding so that they have no fun at all. It should be fun. Have a good one. Peace. :)

[LIBRA]

you can have little trees as the favors and have everyone take one home to plant, or seeds of some kind. you can also raise some butterflys for the occasion and let them be free while your walking dowm the isle. Do you have a dress??? I have a beautifull butterly wedding dress, its white eyelet lace with white embroidered butterflies all over it, it ties in the back and around the neck it really is beautifull and hand made too. bubble machines are cool too, I have lots of ideas I was supposed to have my "hippie wedding" last july and had everything planned out but it didnt go down!! oh well I am much happier now!! so what I had to plant 150 trees all over the place it was fun!!

good luck and if you want more info on the dress let me know!!

DD

[moonjava]

ah! that's such a good idea with Rusted Root!! i haven't really got any tips...
the butterflies are a good idea, i attended a wedding where they released butterflies-but don't keep them in the box too long becuase quite a few died!!! it was really sad. Libra said bubble machines. yeah maybe you could have some of the kids blow bubbles when you walk by
you don't have to walk slow at the processional, right?
okee if i come up with anything i'll write more
peace!

[BandAide]

See, the bad thing about the butterfly idea is that the little butterfly cocoons are frozen and shiped. You have to defrost them before the wedding and the reason the butterflies fly is because they are straving to death and are desperate to get food fast. That's why so many of them do die.

It's seems sorta mean to me. Of course, it looks beautiful, but it seems like a frivolous waste of life. :confused:

[BandAide]

...and I don't know how "hippieish" this is, but my husband and I were married in the fall in this huge mansion built in 1800. We were married by a woman and we wrote our own wedding vows. I vowed to have "a crush on him for the rest of my life." We didn't have assigned seating and instead had tables with food set up in different rooms in the mansion to encourage our guests to walk around and meet people, instead of sitting at their table all night long. In the foyer there was a large grand piano that my huband played before the ceremony. We had a live five piece jazz band, all of whom are good friends of my husband, and we had a vibraphone player instead of an organ player. I apologize if this next statement is smug, but I have to admit that my wedding is without a doubt the most elegant event I've ever attended.

[liquid blue]

Hi Grateful!! Rusted Root as a recessional is a great idea!!

[LIBRA]

See, the bad thing about the butterfly idea is that the little butterfly cocoons are frozen and shiped. You have to defrost them before the wedding and the reason the butterflies fly is because they are straving to death and are desperate to get food fast. That's why so many of them do die.

It's seems sorta mean to me. Of course, it looks beautiful, but it seems like a frivolous waste of life. :confused:


I agree with that completly "you can raise your own" of course its not as easy as buying them but it can be done, if your carefull. where I live you can find monarch catapillers everywhere we used to do it as kids all the time. only like 1 or 2 at a time though you'd need to build something for them to do alot, all the work it would take would make it all the more special, I should have been more clear in the subject.

hope you have a beautifull wedding no matter what you do grateful bride

[BandAide]

Hey libra!

I'm afraid that I know only a small amount about the subject. I apologize if I misinterpretted what you wrote. How would you raise your own? If would seem to me (and I just don't know) that you'd have to find caterpillers that are all about the same age to insure they'd come to maturity in time... but not too soon... and depending on the size of your wedding... you'd need to have a lot. For my wedding, I'd have had to find 175 caterpillers that were all about the same age. Then, they have to mature and you need to catch them in a little box right before your wedding? That seems like a lot of work for a pair to do on their wedding day! I would have been so mad :)

I just fear that, though idealistically (maybe? if that's accurate, and it might not be) you can raise your own butterflies to free, that it's so difficult, if not impossible, that people will just buy them. And buying them is mean.

Catch my drift?

[LIBRA]

Oh ya I am picking up what your laying down it would be difficult but do-able the catapillers mature around the same time I have found lots of them but only had a few to watch. I wasnt thinking hundreds either 10 butterlies that were found and released I think would be just as beautiful thats just me though I am not extravagent. or even large have wicker bird cages to keep them in for people to watch and when they are prenounced husband and wife they can release them together! well who knows I dont know all that much about it either other then when I was little and would do it all the time,but when you find the catapiller you put them in a jar with grass and twigs that they can cacoon too then they turn into a beautifull butterlfy, so you wouldnt need to catch them, only in the piller stage. ok I am rambleing!!
peace, love and butterflies!! heehee

[BandAide]

Hey Libra,

The way you describe it sounds very pretty. I'm also a fan of simple.

After I wrote my last post I went to google and did a search on how to raise butterflies. You're right, it doesn't really seem very difficult and really looks like something fun and interesting.

Since I'm already married and I don't have any use for butterflies in that respect, I'm going to keep it in mind as something my daughter and I can do together when she gets a little older.

I read that you can actually find flowers with the eggs on them and then watch the whole process from that point!

[Lauretta]

Do a web search for the music/lyrics of one of the three musicians from Peter, Paul and Mary. One of them did a song called "There is Love". Look at the lyrics...they are beautiful, and if you can somehow hear the original I think you'll really enjoy it.

Good luck and congrats! :)

[Lauretta]

There is Love
(The Wedding Song)
by Paul Stookey

He is now to be among you at the calling of your hearts.
Rest assured this troubador is acting on his part.
The union of your spirits here has caused him to remain,
For whenever two or more of you are gathered in his name,
There is love. there is love.

Oh, a man shall leave his mother, and a woman leave her home.
They will travel on to where the two will be as one.
As it was in the beginning, is now until the end,
Woman draws her life from man
And gives it back again and there is love.
Oh, there's love.

Well then what's to be the reason for becoming man and wife?
Is it love that brings you here or love that brings you life?
For is loving is the answer then who's the giving for?
Do you believe in something that you've never seen before?
Oh, there's love. there is love.

He is now to be among you at the calling of your hearts.
Rest assured this troubador is acting on his part.
The union of your spirits here has caused him to remain
For whenever two or more of you are gathered in his name
There is love. oh, there is love

[moonjava]

oh yeah-Today by Jefferson Airplane, that's supposed to be a good wedding song.
peace out!

[gratefulbride]

once again, these thoughts are are great! i love the idea of having trees or seeds as a favor.....thats awesome!! thanks again...if you have anymore, im still open for suggestions :)