college

[mellowman05]

i just moved in to college today and its already hard being away from home.
i especially miss my girlfriend i was just looking for words of advice if anyone has any i would definately appreciate them.

[delta9]

If you don't doubt your girlfriend is THE ONE, then don't do anything you wouldn't want her to do.

Otherwise, you're going to be missing your girlfriend until one of you cheat on each other so you might as well stop being homesick and get out there and MEET some people. College can be the best time of your life.

[Unkle_John]

Delta is right.

But with my experience with long distance relationships, you have to make them work. This goes to say that you don't need to know where she is every waking hour, but call her and check in on her. Show her that you still want her in your life. Not call her and bug the mess out of her.

It also depends on how far away you are too. If you can get with her on the weekends then do as much as you can. But sometimes they want to move on. And when they do, you should as well. I dated this gal in college and to be honest it was a waste of my energy. I honestly don't know why we stayed together, sex I guess. I look back now and over the 4 years of us being off and on again, I had met many other gals who I enjoyed being around with more than her. And I think "what if..".

I'm not saying she is going to dump you b/c you decided to get a better education. And I'm not saying she is going to dump you at all, but people change over time and if she does break up with you, move on. Don't waste your time trying to win her back. Just like the old saying, if it was ment to be, she'll be back. Or something like that.

As for being homesick, you'll get used to college life in a few weeks. Shoot, I hardly went home, even thought I was half a day's driving distance. Enjoy your time there.. and don't smoke any weed on school grounds. I found out they don't like that.

[Sundown the Elf]

Welcome to the forum, Mellowman05.

It is always painful to be away from home, to be
away from friends and familiar surroundings. It
is good that you are pursuing your goals--you may
be forced to let go your grasp of those things
behind you, in order to embrace what lies ahead.
This is true growth. And, if what you feel you
have left behind you , is still with you in your
heart, you have not left it at all. That is the
beginning of Wisdom. May you find both in the
time ahead....

[mamasharones]

I'd hate to be blunt and crude.... but chances are that

you'll get over it sooner than you think

and you and your girl are probably gonna break up

but you never know....

just make sure you keep the bonds with the people that you truly love the most and those people that are really important in your life will continue to be there no matter where you are

[delta9]

That's what I'm saying - unless you KNOW, it's likely things are going to down hill, and it so rare that young people KNOW.

[treehugger]

MY relationship with my boyfriend didn't last after I went to college...but it was for the BETTER!

College opens your mind past what you've seen before. You'll likely come out of college a different person.

Just embrace your youth. Once it's gone, it's GONE. :)

Kath

[kermit]

yea we should be hearing you screem

FISH ON here in a few, think of all the girls that are now away from home and they have there own bed..... mmmm college ......

[delta9]

"The only problem with a 19 year old girlfriend is you need a new one every year"

[kermit]

"The only problem with a 19 year old girlfriend is you need a new one every year"

quote stealer!

[mellowman05]

thanks lots guys its great to hear words of wisdom from those that know whats going on a helluva lot more than i do.
adjusting to being away is so much easier than i thought it would be

[mamasharones]

I guess I should add that I cried for like a week after I moved to college and I had a bf at home.

after that week.... well I broke up with him met some really cool people and really looked into my self and got inspired by what I was learning. You're going to be surrounded by brilliant people. You're going to change so much that you're not even going to know the person you are now when you graduate. Good luck... and you are going to have so much fun!

[Dove]

I had a bf from my hometown when i first went to school. He would never come visit me and i was miserable. After he broke up with me i started socializing more and i met some really great people. Then he wanted me back and i was miserable again.. until i broke up with him for good and now i've been with my new college boyfriend for almost two years and i've never been happier.

In college, you'll meet so many people that are into the same stuff as you are. My ex was a cop.........now i'm dating a fellow art major, and it goes without saying: we get a long much better.

So yea, I am not too confident in long distance relationships. It's very rare when high school sweethearts actually end up staying together for the rest of their lives. Don't let it spoil your college life. :hippie: