How to cope

[mamasharones]

Well.... Recently my husband and I have received some pretty bad news

It's even hard for me to talk about.
We just found out that the baby that's in my womb has some pretty serious problems. Her brain is highly undeveloped with enlarged ventricles, tiny or absent cerebellum and hydrocephaly (lots of fluid around the brain).
along with that she was heart problems and kidney problems. And as far as they can tell downs syndrome. But die to her cerebral adnormalities, probably wouldn't make it too far after birth.

So we've decided to terminate the pregnancy. Now I know there may be people that don't agree with that but I find bring a child into this world in such a condition is inhumane and unethical. So if you have any comments in which you are not agreeable please just save it.

I've never been so sad in my life. I don't know how I'll even get up in the morning. I feel like an empty shell. How do I deal with this?

[toman]

That is sad. I think you're making the right decision though, because there's allready no shortage of perfectly healthy children in the world, and there are more coming all the time.

[tooter_mcgee]

I'm truly sorry as well and I do think you made the best decision possible for your baby. This is truly selfless parenting, as alot of parents would hold on in order to spare themselves pain. You must really be wonderful people. To be honest, I don't know how much help i'll be because i've never been through something like this. I have been miserable though, however. One piece of advice I can offer is to not hold back your sad feelings. Let yourself be miserable for awhile. It's only natural, and the longer you hold things in, the longer it will take you to move on. Moving on isn't forgetting, but one day, hard as it may be to believe now, you'll be happy again and out there living your life. Again, i'm sincerely sorry for what you and your family is going through.

:group_hug


~~Diana

[Herbmama]

Mamasharones,
You have my deepest sympathy and respect in this. Peace, blessing and comfort to you and your family.

[treehugger]

I don't know what to say, except, I shall light a candle for you tonight and you shall be in my thoughts.

Kath

[mamasharones]

thanks everyone! :group_hug

[morningsunshine]

Well.... Recently my husband and I have received some pretty bad news

It's even hard for me to talk about.
We just found out that the baby that's in my womb has some pretty serious problems. Her brain is highly undeveloped with enlarged ventricles, tiny or absent cerebellum and hydrocephaly (lots of fluid around the brain).
along with that she was heart problems and kidney problems. And as far as they can tell downs syndrome. But die to her cerebral adnormalities, probably wouldn't make it too far after birth.

So we've decided to terminate the pregnancy. Now I know there may be people that don't agree with that but I find bring a child into this world in such a condition is inhumane and unethical. So if you have any comments in which you are not agreeable please just save it.

I've never been so sad in my life. I don't know how I'll even get up in the morning. I feel like an empty shell. How do I deal with this?
Oh man... I am so sorry. I've always been taught that even if we don't know why, things happen for a reason, and eventually we'll understand why what happened, had to. Not that what a complete stranger thinks really matters, but I would do the exact same thing if I was in your position, and I applaud you for being so strong. Keep your head up.

[Unkle_John]

I'm so sorry to hear that, and I agree with you.
It's better to do what you have to do for the child, no matter if it's the toughest decission you have to make. You will be in my thoughts.

[LIBRA]

Oh Mama I am sooooo sorry, I wouldnt know how to cope, you'll find strength with your husband. That really is sad, dont let anyone tell you your not doing the right thing, if its right for your family then nothin else matters!

Good luck :group_hug

[shaina]

you are in my deepest prayers

[ShaDoW]

You have my heart felt sympathies mama, you will be in my thoughts and medatations. Be strong and keep your head up but don't be afraid to let yourself be sad, it is only natural.
If you wish to talk I will listen, pm me or im me....I am in school right now but if I can offer you my shoulder for you to cry upon I am here for you.
:group_hug :hb:

[mamasharones]

Thank you guys so much....

I do to st louis tomorrow to get the procedure done. it's gonna take three days to complete. I'm really scared and sad but I know it's what's best. But I think what makes me feel best is know that someday my husband and I will have children. Everything does happen for a reason and maybe it just wasn't the right time.

We are confident (and so is our doctor) that this won't happen again.
As far as coping.... the school year just started today so I'm hoping throwing myself into my school work will help get my mind off things

Thanks again to all of you for your support. It makes me feel better that other people support our decision.


YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST!!! :group_hug