feeling dead

[*RaiN*]

sad topic for this forum i know, butttt here it goes
does anyone ever feel so numb that you feel like you are dead, just dragging yourself "through the motions" of day to day life. Sadly, I don't feel like I can progress or even feel like I want to progress and get on into the "next stage of my life" hum :( i dont know what to do with myself, sorry for the somber tone of this post but i'm hopelessly lost any suggestions
thanks peace and hopes for happiness to others
-Rain M.

[oldkzildjians]

Try taking up a new hobby. From my experience, this can be refreshing. When I get bored I seek out a new percussion instrument to learn. Try doing something that gives you a sense of accomplishment.

[morningsunshine]

sad topic for this forum i know, butttt here it goes
does anyone ever feel so numb that you feel like you are dead, just dragging yourself "through the motions" of day to day life. Sadly, I don't feel like I can progress or even feel like I want to progress and get on into the "next stage of my life" hum :( i dont know what to do with myself, sorry for the somber tone of this post but i'm hopelessly lost any suggestions
thanks peace and hopes for happiness to others
-Rain M.
Try yoga or meditation, or even just try to cry... I know it sounds silly but crying always makes me feel better when I'm feeling crappy... I went through that a few years ago, and then I read the Tao Te Ching, you should check it out. It explains Taoism, an ancient Chinese philosophy, and that REALLY helped me. Or another thing, is to help other people out. Have you thought about maybe doing a fundraiser where you live for the victims of Katrina? Helping other people gives me a sense of well-being and it makes me feel warm inside :) Also, going camping and being around nature, and marvelling in the wonders of life and the perfect harmony of everything really helps ground me.
Just some suggestions, but remember these bad times will pass! I know how you feel, and there's light at the end of the tunnel, even if you don't feel like it right now :D

[PEACE FROG]

If the Tao Te Ching does'nt work there's always South Park re-runs.

[Unkle_John]

I moved to another part of the country.... it helped me. I'm much happier now and more content with life.

[toman]

Maybe take up shooting, as in handguns or rifles. Politically incorrect as it may be, it's a whole lot of fun, and a great hobby that you can use to take out some of your frustration. Try shooting melons with a large caliber, semi automatic, high capacity handgun. It's fun!

[delta9]

Are you on any anti-depressents or ever been prescribed any sort of mood altering medicine?

[PEACE FROG]

Maybe take up shooting, as in handguns or rifles. Politically incorrect as it may be, it's a whole lot of fun, and a great hobby that you can use to take out some of your frustration. Try shooting melons with a large caliber, semi automatic, high capacity handgun. It's fun! Handguns and rifles are, try balloons, you certainly know when you've hit it. Hey Toman, looking at your sig line.... do you have a copy of Joes garage? I used to, it was the funniest shit on the planet.

[1_LoVinVibe]

for me, music and animals have always pulled me out of any sadness/depression. Receiving the love of an animal is very healing.. if you have a little furry one kickin around, go pet it and hug it!
Also finding a musician or 2 who can give you the positive words you need is extremely inspiring to keep on truckin. Just know you're never alone, and you always have the strength to do what you want to do... just harness the courage try and live it up in this beautiful life, and just remember, sometimes things look darkest before the light.

:group_hug

[toman]

Yeah, I do have Joe's Garage. Frank Zappa was the man...

[oldkzildjians]

I wish I had a copy of Baby Snakes. Next thing to buy when I have cheese to blow.

Hey Rain, I know I mentioned instruments before, but thought I'd get a little more specific. If you don't already own a djembe, go get one and beat that sucker! Drumming can be decent exercise, and rhythm will make anyone feel better.

[Pistolero]

Vacations! I know I need one real bad right now. Got to put that "what do I need to do next" mindset on hold for a couple of weeks. Less than two weeks and I'm out to Cape Cod!

Meanwhile, in dealing with depression (and I'm not talking about the daily ups and downs of life type thing....but that real "I can barely walk across the room without it feeling like an effort" kind of stuff) I've heard a saying that depression is anger turned inwards. I've heard that a lot and I never thought it applied to me, but once when I was in one of those spaces I examined it. Being a typical male who would at times rather have teeth pulled than deal with my feelings, it ain't always easy. Well, sure enough, I scratched the surface and GOD!!!!.....was I angry!!!! Everything from boy wonder (GWB),the Lakers making it to the finals, my work and home scene...you name it. What I miracle. I walked right across the room! The image of smashing everything in sight with a baseball bat but not actually doing it works good for me!! I tend to buffer feelings with my body before examining them. Not that healthy...but I'm workin' on it!! I so often neglect dealing with my feelings in the whole mind, body, spirit thing. Good luck and keep talking about it! Peace.

[morningsunshine]

I wish I had a copy of Baby Snakes. Next thing to buy when I have cheese to blow.

Hey Rain, I know I mentioned instruments before, but thought I'd get a little more specific. If you don't already own a djembe, go get one and beat that sucker! Drumming can be decent exercise, and rhythm will make anyone feel better.
Plus beating on stuff will help with any suppressed rage :)

[*RaiN*]

hey thanks for all the "suggestions" i will try the drums, i have bongos
no ive never taken any kind of medication and ive been warned to stay away from anti deppressents so no. . .
but thanks again :)
-Rain M.

[orchid]

I agree with nearly everything posted above. Particularly regarding meditation and yoga.

My two cents: Depression can be closely linked with your physical health… For instance, people that have digestive issues almost always experience some sort of depression, and vice/versa. Changing your diet (especially removing refined sugar, processed foods, etc. from your diet) and exercising can have a hugely positive affect on your overall emotional health.

Most people experience a deep bout of depression at one point or another in life. Always remember, you’re not alone. Surround yourself with caring, loving people and don’t be too hard on yourself. Things will get better.

Peace,
O

[room85]

I know what you're talking about....try philosophy....works for me, especially existencialism. Read Karl Jspers. if you don't want to or didn't work for you...just get a hobby,learn to love yourself in every single way and keep going for yourself. (drugs or anything like it are not good for you in situations like this)

[toman]

I'm surprised nobody has mentioned cannabis. Combined with some of these other suggestions it would probably help out. Growing might even provide you with a meaningful hobby as well.

[morningsunshine]

I'm surprised nobody has mentioned cannabis. Combined with some of these other suggestions it would probably help out. Growing might even provide you with a meaningful hobby as well.
Personally, smoking has never really been theraputic for me, if I'm sad, it tends to exacerbate my emotions, I actually avoid smoking if I'm upset or angry about something. Gardening is a good idea, I like it a lot, but you might want to grow something legal, that way you won't have a potential arrest added to your plate.

[toman]

Personally, smoking has never really been theraputic for me, if I'm sad, it tends to exacerbate my emotions, I actually avoid smoking if I'm upset or angry about something. Gardening is a good idea, I like it a lot, but you might want to grow something legal, that way you won't have a potential arrest added to your plate.
To each his own. For me, the law is not something that's going to intervene in my quest for well being. If i's something that matters to you, then so be it.

[morningsunshine]

To each his own. For me, the law is not something that's going to intervene in my quest for well being. If i's something that matters to you, then so be it.
The "you" in my post was a collective you, not a -toman- you, I was just saying that if you're already seriously depressed, worrying about a potential arrest isn't the best way to go about happifying yourself... but then the cops down here don't have anything better to do than to bust people for residue in their car ashtrays, so it's like their christmas when they find a plant... but I don't know how strict other states are...

[toman]

That's true. I live in Oregon, and smoking grass around here is no big deal. It's probably different in other places, it's just something I've grown up with and I look at it as an everyday kind of thing. Also, growing a few plants is pretty easy to keep secure if you're smart about it. I don't want to turn this into a marijuana debate, so let's just let it go at that... :ufo:

[drugdoer]

I hate to say it, but descending into depression and self-destruction is something that naturally follows from this state of affairs that we find ourselves in. As we age, we degenerate and will eventually die, and that's all we know (IMO). Any meaning we assign to our lives or any hobbies or constructive activities that we pick up along the way are purely for our own entertainment--just a temporary distraction from our destiny: death. It's just a question of when. If you are tired of playing along and would like to give up, I wouldn't blame you. On the other hand, if you can make something positive out of all this, good for you.

[angymnast247]

i want to give you some hugs first :group_hug . sometimes a hug can help

also i agree with most of the comments. especially yoga meditation and the tao te ching. try going on a bikeride in a park or take a hike. sometimes some sunshine and fresh air help out the mood. i hope you feel better soon!

peace and love
~alyssa