I love it, g/f HATES it

[free_casius]

I used to smoke with friends when I was in my university days (and great days they were...) but now I enjoy it alone in the garage at home. Problem is my girlfriend borderline doesn't accept it. She's tried it once - hates it. Pretty much hates that I even do it. I've managed to smoke 'executive' sized without notice but whenever it is in the open it's worse than pulling teeth...so my stash is done and I'm going to let things cool off for a while, but I need a better way...perhaps a better system? Anyone else with a similar experience? Solution? (aside from suggesting a replacement g/f... :D )

[delta9]

Find out and address her objections in YOU doing it, work out her bad experience and its effect it may be having on her view of your activity, show her the good points to your smoking and so on.

Otherwise, live and let live and good luck in life and love :)

[toman]

That's a messed up situation. You're doing nothing wrong, there is no reason for her to have a beef. I can see asking you to smoke outside or in the garage or something, but to be hard on you just for smoking, that's definately her problem. I mean, what's next? Is she going to get on your back for eating dill pickles? My advice: Be blunt. Tell her straight up that you think the way she's behaving is immature bullshit. If you can't discuss something like that, I think you have more relationship problems than just smoking rope.

[nappydread]

ya...thats a hard situation. But as Delta says, I would discuss with her why she hates it so much. Is it purely from her own experience b/c i know lots of people that have had bad "first impressions" on pot esp. when alcohol is combined. Or does her hate stem from legal issues or something larger (see this thread on propaganda...
http://www.happyhippie.com/vb/showthread.php?t=255 )

But there is also "give and take" in a relationship...and if you're willing to give up something that benefits you (and something you love!) then she should be willing to do the same for you:)

peace

[tooter_mcgee]

definitely talk about it, especially if you care about her feelings at all. i had a similar problem with my boyfriend when we first got together over alcohol, except he was the one who had the problem with my drinking. i wasnt an alcoholic, but he had bad experiences with a drunk parent as a child that have led him to hate alcohol. so we talked, and we compromised. i drink less, and its understood how he feels about it. we both felt alot better after working out a compromise, it beats fighting by alot...and its also comforting to know that you can come to a compromise if needed in any relationship because nobody is perfect, and theres no such thing as the 'perfect mate'.

[delta9]

http://www.rumandcoke.net/merlin/emote/pot.gif

[tooter_mcgee]

lol... thats great :D

[delta9]

Show your girlfriend just what that tongue is for http://www.rumandcoke.net/merlin/emote/devil.gif

[nappydread]

Show your girlfriend just what that tongue is for http://www.rumandcoke.net/merlin/emote/devil.gif

No no...discuss it with her..... what if she HATES that too!!! :eek:

peace

[delta9]

No no...discuss it with her..... what if she HATES that too!!! :eek:

peace
Not for me if we can't have a common interest like that ^_^

But I would try to find out that sort of likes-and-dislikes thing early on.

[nappydread]

...But I would try to find out that sort of likes-and-dislikes thing early on...

...hehehe...yep exactly:)
err...umm..we are talkin about lickin rolling papers right?
:D:D
...i like the cherry ones:)

peace

[delta9]

Haha. Wait. We are speaking in thinly vieled double entendre, right? :rolleyes:

Personally, I just love eating so very much; licking my lips right now just thinking about li-err, I like the blueberry rolling papers with the grape marijauna :)

[BandAide]

Hmm...

Well, to be honest with you, my husband smokes pot on a daily basis and I don't really like it. But, it's his life and his body. We've agreed that he'll have the basement as his place to do whatever he wants. Our children will never be allowed there (it's locked) and so he's smokes cigaettes, pot and plays his violent video games there. I don't have to smell it or see it. He doesn't bring it in the car (that's a big deal to me as I'm going to be a teache someday, which would be impossible with a drug charge.)

I guess that I don't really like that he smokes on a daily basis because I'm unable to undestand the appeal of it. To me, smoking pot is boring and numbing. I do not like the way it feels.

But, I also understand that I'm in the minority there and that it effects me negatively, while effecting most people positively.

So, I reconcile that smoking pot at the end of the day is not different than going out to happy hour or coming home and having a few drinks. It's what he does to relax.

So, perhaps you could point out a few of the things she does to relax and make comparisons.

If she doesn't like it because it's illegal than maybe you could stess the importnace of having a safe place to smoke and assure her that you'll never have large quantities around or put he safety as a law abiding citizen at risk.

[ladywithafan]

When my boyfriend and I first started going out, I used to not like marijuana. But I was really naive back then, and I didn't really know how it affected the body and all I knew about it was that it is illegal. My boyfriend approached me and talked to me about it, and I voiced my concerns about it to him. He was very supportive of how I felt and we agreed that he would do it with his friends, and he wouldn't have it around me unless I knew that he had it. BTW, I never told him that I didn't like it, that was his body and business, but I think that i acted uncomfortable around it. I was really touched that he was the one that initiated the conversation, and that he was supportive of how I felt. And when I was ready to experiment with it, he was one that was with me when I first got stoned. We both smoke still, but we only do it on occasion (We have both tamed down from our teenage party times). So try to talk to her, and try to see it from her point of view also. :)

[Chiana]

No no...discuss it with her..... what if she HATES that too!!! :eek:

peace

I say discuss it then use it :D

I got 2 girlfriends, one which don't do but its ok and the other which does it as often as she can. (Btw, I'm a girl too.) But I haven't smoked in about 2 years. Look the best thing to do it talk about it but be sure not to get her pissed off.

[nappydread]

...although i think my quote was taken slightly out of context...
I say discuss it then use it :D
...i couldn't AGREE more:)

... be sure not to get her pissed off.
yes i agree...its really the last thing you need at this point!

peace

[Pedata]

I had a boyfriend once that hated it, apparently. He didn't let me know he hated it until we were a bit along in our relationship. It caused a lot of friction. He knew I smoked from the beginning. I couldn't understand why he felt I shouldn't do it since he didn't do it. We started not getting along over more and more things and I finally had to get away from him. Looking back (this was about 25 years ago) I realized the pot was just the first sign of a very controlling person. I'm not saying your girlfriend is controlling, but it's something to think about.

Peace :)

[Sunnydaydreams]

very true, Pedata. i had a bf was also controlling but at first he didnt mind me smoking, but it upset him if i had friends w/ me (b/c i didnt like to smoke alone) & then it upset him that i didnt spend every moment w/ him b/c i went some place else for 20 min to smoke w/ them. nothing could please him.

when people insist you change or they're gone, then its time to re-evaluate the situation. be careful! its a sign of instability sometimes, b/c my x-bf went crazy & busted shit up & hurt himself. hopefully you're not in that situation! :confused:

peace & love