being a pot smoking parent ~ can be hard at times...

[luvingmama]

Sometimes it is hard being a parent that smokes pot. My husband and I do not smoke around our children, but they know we smoke. Ages 8 and 5. However, we have always been open with our children. Our eight year old is starting to ask questions about different things. The best thing for us is to let them know,"You can talk to us about anything, whether it is about a bad word, drugs, sex, alcohol, etc. I do wish there was more info out there for we types of parents. It doesn't mean that we are bad parents, but sometimes it causes sadness to know we are pot smoking parents. We are private people and do not share this with other parents. However, lately, I feel that some parents are questioning if we smoke. Comments here and there. I am not in control of others, but it causes me pain. We have VERY intellegent children. My 8 yr old has always been on the honor roll. My 5 yr old just started school, and I hear nothing but compliments from the teacher. We are a tight family and nothing can get in the way of that. BUT ~ like I said, I feel that some parents at the school are wondering about us smoking, and it is causing a grate pain in my chest. I fear this, i think. Is this normal. Can anyone help me out there that has been through this? Peacefully Yours! Love and Peace to All! Sincerely, LUVINGMAMA...

[delta9]

Man, we sure do have a lot of momma's here...

Are you sure you aren't just being paranoid, firstly?

That said, kids are perceptive, and kids talk... It's just the way it is. To me, there is nothing at all wrong with it as long as you are able to do your job. To use BandAide's words, it is not much different from drinking a beer after work to relax - and do you think your neighbors (many of which probably drink in open sight of their children) are pained to be thinking you may be wondering if they drink alcohol or not?

Alcohol is a much nastier habit and incapicitates you more than marijauna, in this marijauna advocate's opinion. So you know what I think? Who cares what they think. Your children are successful and getting all the love and support they need. There is nothing wrong here, except that pot is illegal :rolleyes:

[BandAide]

I don't smoke, but my husband does. We have a 10 month old daugher and another one on the way. Though we would NEVER subject our daughter to second hand smoke (of any variety) we do plan on being honest with her about drugs. That does not mean we'll teach her to do drugs or ever condone or encourage the use of them, but we will teach responsibity.

Here's what makes a parent a "Good Parent:" Loving your children and keeping them safe and well.

If you are doing that, I don't care what you put in your body.

My worries are strictly in what other people are saying. If someone has a big enough concern and gets the authorities involved, you could lose your children. I don't know what the laws are like where you're from, they're stricter in some places than others. If you sense that there's that sort of tension, just quit smoking. It's not worth it.

But, that's through the eyes of a mom who would make any sacrifice to be with her children.

[toman]

I think it's great that you're actually educating your children as to the differences between things, instead of just feeding them the bullshit most people do that all 'drugs' and sex are bad. I don't think you have a lot to worry about legaly, but I suppose it depends on where you live. I know most of the more civilized states have made marijuana simply a ticketable offense, so it's no big deal unless you're selling it or toting large quantities. (more than an ounce) As for the issue of kids talking, I guess there isn't a lot you can do about that. I think they're going to talk no matter what, so the best you can do is try to explain everything to them so at least they know what they're talking about. I can see where it might be difficult though, when mommy says smoking grass is no big deal and the authority figure at school says anybody who uses 'drugs' is a terrorist...

[luvingmama]

Thank you all for responding. Sometimes us Mom's need support from other Mom's that understand the consequenses of the choices we make in our lives. Did that make any sense?? Yes, of course I am paranoid. I probably should be. I haven't smoked since Saturday night because of the comments that were made. Course, that was only 2 days ago. I would change everything in my life if my children were in danger. And that is how I feel ~ like i am putting them in danger because of my choices. When my husband and i were talking about this, and the what if's ~ I felt my legs go numb and felt like I was going to colapes. I thought i was going to pass out. That was Saturday night. I haven't smoked since then. But I just don't feel like that is the answer. Yes, I am in a state of confusion. My children are my world ~ yes, my husband too ~ but all's I know in life is to be an awesome mother. I think that is why i am in such pain. I take pride in my children and my mothering techniques ~ and someone came along and threatened my techniques. I can not take a chance of children services coming to my door step. We do what we gotta do, I suppose. Have a Grateful Day!

[toman]

I think you may be over reacting a bit. Smoking grass is not a big deal, and it's certainly not grounds to have your children taken away. If you're doing everything else right, you're not going to have a problem. If there are other factors involved, then yes, smoking marijuana could be a very effective tool for the man to use against you. My advice? Don't stop smoking out of fear, because the government is in the wrong, not you. Keep your other shit straight, do the best you can and be smart; you'll be fine.

[mountain_mama]

I know how hard it can be. We have a ten year old and a three and a half month old. I used to be so scared of social services coming to my home, then one day they came and I found out they have much bigger worries than a parent who smokes some pot. Before I found out that I was pregnant I was a daily smoker and freely admitted this information to my OB (thinking that complete honesty was the pathway to quality healthcare) he in turn reported me to the state who by law sent a social worker to my room in the hospital when my son was born and another social worker to my home when my son was two weeks old for a routine visit. The social worker could easily see that we provide a loving and safe enviroment for our children and informed me of what a waste of her time she belived the visits for pot use were. She told me horror stories of visiting homes where people were using meth in front of her and the children she was checking on. She told me stories that made me want to cry of neglect, abuse and terrible drug use and more often than not many of the children were not removed from the homes with drug abuse. Now, this is my experiance with social services, it may vary from state to state and even from county to county. If you are still paranoid call your local social services and ask them what they would do if somebody reported marijuana use in the home. Also check on your local and state laws. Many states have decriminalized small amounts of marijuana. Good luck, I can tell from your post that you love your children and care for their well being and that in my oponion is what makes a good mother :) !

[luvingmama]

What an Awesome idea ~ to call the services in my town and see what they would do / just for shits, it's good to know what's going on. I have been smoking for over 10 years ~ except during pregnancy and during the time of nursing my babies... I guess it is just a part of who I am. Peace and Love to ya! Have a GRATEFUL DAY!

[mamasharones]

All I have to say is who cares what the other parents think. Make sure you don't tell anyone and it's cool. Do you know what kind of wacky shit goes on in people's homes. There are families with secrets so intense it makes your pot smoking dealie look like no problem at all. I once met this girl who's mom shot and killed someone and spent 13 yrs in jail and no one knew. I met this other mom that thought it was disgusting to poop (whether people knew she was doing it or not) and she also taught her children about sex by allowing her young children to watch her and her husband have sex. Your pot smoking is not that bad of a problem. Let people mind their own freakin business. You don't have to worry yourself and stress out over nosey people. You live your life like you want to live it because for every bad thing you do there are twenty people doing worse. If you are a good mom that's all that matters! Don't let other people let you live in fear or worry like that. You're a good mom. It's okay!

[NeverNeverLand:)]

An when u´r not sure if u can fuck around with different men everyday go to a sexforum an ask:)

[nappydread]

wtf?
...
An when u´r not sure if u can fuck around with different men everyday go to a sexforum an ask:)

wow...you sound like a real expert? Is this what you do???
This thread started as a pot smoking thread...not as a fucking different men sexforum thingy....
positive vibes friend:)...

peace

[delta9]

Haha, I know... I think it's just his sense of humor. :)

[NeverNeverLand:)]

Delta why don´t u eggsplain the joke:)

[luvingmama]

Well, I totally didn't get that?? (the sex forum thing??) Your right, this is a pot smoking forum. That's why I came to this site. I am a quiet person, and I needed to share my thoughts. Thank you to all of you that have helped me. I have been smoking since my teenage years. I am almost 30 now. It is what I know. I do accounting work, and I tell ya ~ a good buzz makes my mathmatic skills work. It is amazing the stuff that is understood. OH well ~ that's not the point. I came to your thread because I needed help. And to ALL of those who helped me ~ I thank you! This is an awesome site and I am very happy I found you! Take care ~ and have a GRATEFUL DAY!! Peace and Love!!

[nappydread]

Delta why don´t u eggsplain the joke...

...yes delta...EXPLAIN YOURSELF!!!! :confused: :confused: :p
...i beleive it is a non sense of some kind:D

BTW - i know lots of pot smoking parents...and I would RANT forever if a parent lost his or her child...over some grass!!!


peace

[Pedata]

Well, one thing I've noticed is that most people who don't smoke, or never have, really don't know what the signs are.

I have some straight friends, I have been high around them and they don't have a clue :D

If you really want to fool the straight people, just put a Bush sticker on your car. They'll assume so much, lol.

Peace,
Cassandra

[luvingmama]

Your are TOO funny. I think my husband would leave me if i put a Bush sticker on the car. :D It might have been smelled on my jacket or something. I dunno. Once I drop my kids off at school, my one-hitter is out, I am set, I've got my pretty car smell :rolleyes: , my hand lotion/sanitizer stuff, gum. I'm set. But the family that made the comments, her mom used to smoke when she was a kid. She says that she has never smoked :rolleyes: , but she is anti~everything. She's one of those PTO moms that is in everyone's shit and talks to all. Oh well, I am not responsible for others train of thought ~ but i don't care anymore. I just better not hear anyone put my kids at risk again. I'll go postal. Or like my husband says, " they'll have a hard time getting around with slashed tires..." No ~ we really aren't like that. We live in a big dumpy city with alot of crummy parents that don't give a shit. We just happened to be placed in that same catagory. oh well... that's ok, we know how we are and that's what matters. We want out of this city. I'll happen soon. Hopefully the next school year, the kids will start school somewhere else. We've wanted that for awhile. Thats another reason i decided to quit smoking. it would be the funk if I found a job that was worth a shit. I work for a half ass construction company, where i smoke all day long. There is no way we can afford to move until i find something better.... life goes on :D Have a GRATEFUL DAY! PEACE AND LOVE TO ALL!

[peach_blossom]

An when u´r not sure if u can fuck around with different men everyday go to a sexforum an ask
Got confused. I swear I was reading a thread with another topic.
Haha, I know... I think it's just his sense of humor.
Got even more confused. How delta understood the humor in NeverNeverland's statement is beyond me.
Delta why don´t u eggsplain the joke
Even NeverNeverland got confused too. lol.
In conclusion to the subject matter, I still didn't get it. :D



and I would RANT forever if a parent lost his or her child...over some grass!!!
And I shall join Nappy is such event occurs.

[NeverNeverLand:)]

peachblossom,u already grasped the subject that should be a potforums highest achivement,confusion that´s great.
The others that have achived it still doesn´t know.
:)

[treehugger]

teehee...I sort of get neverneverland's humor....but I TOTALLY can't explain it. :o

nevernever...you remind me of an Aquarius.....

Anyway, sorry for the threadjack...I don't have kids but I do live in a small town and I know how people can be...

Maybe instead of a "bush" sticker, put an American flag and a support the troops sticker on the car????

Sorry I wasn't more help...I hope things work out for you.

[delta9]

teehee...I sort of get neverneverland's humor....but I TOTALLY can't explain it. :o
Yeah, I'm in the same boat... I think I see what he's poking fun at and then why I try to think about it and vocalize it, I have no idea :/

[LIBRA]

when I got pregnant for my son I was a smoker and liked it alot but I stopped during pregnancy, and never started back up cause when I did I didnt like the way it made me feel anymore, and I didnt want it to be an issue because I know how society is, which sucks. so I still feel like a pot smokin parent because I did for so long and people take one look at me an assume I smoke which drives me crazy cause I dont, well I may take a hit once and awhile if I am out or at show, usually when I am drunk and not around my son, I may take a toke. so I could imagine how paranoid you must feel and its too bad cause as long as your a good parent it shouldnt matter but it does so good luck and I hope nothing bad happens. there are so many other things that are so much worse the people who think that smoking pot is so awefull need to take a hit and see for themselves, shit most politicians that help make the rules break them!! Oh I could go on but I'll stop!!!

[shaina]

I thought I would share some insight on this subject I am 16 and I grew up in a total hippie household my mom smoked pot all through her pregnancy with me and my younger brother and all around us when we were growing up I went to my first greatful dead show at 3 weeks and my first rainbow gathering at 6 months I've been exposed to pot my whole life I accidently got stoned when I was 4 or 5 by eating some ganja pancake batter and I've turned out great! nothing is wrong with me the only thing is I have a higher tolorance for pot but that could have nothing to do with it cause I also have a high tolarance for alcohol! as far as social survices they have alot more problems to deal with then that also just educate your children that people at school and in the community don't think pot is okay but that its an herb for grownups to use thats what my mom did and I never told people if you want anymore advice about it just give me a holler
blessings
shaina

[blackmamba]

Hi, I dont usually post on this forum, but this one caught my attention. I to am a mother of three, my oldest is 11. I am a very involved mother. I stay at home and run my house much like the pioneers did. Baking, gardening, sewing, making everything my hand, often the old fashioned way. My children are always at my side, learning how to do everything. I live in utah, in a very conservative, republican neighborhood. ALL of my neighbors make more than 6 figures a year and are staunch mormons. My husbands income is right above poverty level. As you can see, we do not fit in. A few years ago, other mothers thought they should tell me how to raise my children, told me my homemade clothes were immodest, and that I should attend their church. At first, I thought maybe they were right. Then I got to know other kids and realized what awful, selfish little brats they were and that ALL of their mothers were on numerous amounts of anti-depressants and other meds. I firmly beleive that these chemical drugs are worse for you than smoking pot. yet, so many women pop perscription pills like they were nothing. I have learned that these women who were telling me how to run my life are just plain stupid and they need to mind their own bussiness. My children get harassed almost on a daily basis because their parents drink coffee, have a drink occasionally, dress in unique clothes, and drive a VW bus ( everyone else here drives cars that cost 50 grand or more) I do feel a little upset sometimes that people can be so mean sometimes. But then I think about 10 or 15 years from now. I firmly believe my children will be well rounded, well educated, and most importantly, sincere and kind to everyone they meet. My neighbors children will not be so succesful because they have never learned to do anything for themselves.

DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD FOR BEING THE MOTHER THAT YOU ARE!!!you sound like a very invoved mommy and that is not something you see everyday. Smoking pot is not bad. A mother who teaches and loves her children is the very most important thing. When church people come over and tell me I should take my children to the mormon church, I say "sure I will go, but only if I can take your kids to the hindu temple" It was hard to come to the realization that I was a very good mother even though the majority of people in utah dont think so. I often just feel sorry for these other people because they really dont know how to enjoy life. Best of luck to you, I hope you feel better very soon. Kids will be kids and talk about mean things, but a caring mommy is the very best thing, and kids will find something new to talk about very soon. Your children sound smart and wonderful, I think they will be okay.

[***peace_and_love***]

:nature-sm my parents use to smoke in the 70's but now just my dad smokes (closet smoker)im not a kid but i can relate (17)
i have smoked behind their backs for about 5 years, and i wouldnt want more than to tell my parents i smoke and i want them to be happy for me!
im not saying tell your kids that you think it is ok for them to start smokin, but let them discover it on their own, and dont make them be afraid to talk to you about it. :nature-sm