School

[LIBRA]

So my son comes home yesterday and tells me what happens at lunch. His cousin hide his spoon so Kris couldnt find it as a joke, they laughed, then another boy did it but hide it at another table. The teacher finds the spoon asks whos it was, Kris said mine. She made him get up, throw out his lunch and sit alone on the steps. He said he ate a few bites of apple sauce, and that was about all he got to eat. I am so pissed. This isnt his teacher either, it was the 2nd grade teacher he will have next year. I trust Kris and his word, he generally does not fabricate stories, plus he was starving when he got home. I also guess there was a pea or two thrown, by the same kid that hide the spoon, so Kris got the blame for both. Which I dont even really care he was blamed, I know its hard to tell who really did what sometimes, but to throw away his lunch.

I am trying to type up a letter to email to his teacher but I am so pissed that Im going to sound like an ass. Im calming down so I dont call this teacher every name in the book, cause I am an over reactor always have been, if the emotion is there it comes flyin outta my mouth.

Wouldnt you guys be upset? How would you go about it and what would you say in a letter??? Cause my letter started HOW DARE YOU lol, im glad I havent sent it yet :D

[Adam Blanchard]

That is sooo messed up! I had some teachers like that and even in 4th and 5th grade proceeded to curse them out with words I should not have known at that young age. I recently found out that one of the aides on my sons bus to school was throwing out his breakfast if he hadn't finished it by the time they got to the school. My son, much like myself, does not eat first thing in the morning but usually finishes his breakfast shortly after he gets to school before he goes to class so I got to write a letter to his principal and have a talk with the aide myself.

Do you send a lunch or does your son buy his lunch?

I would probally write the letter something like this.

Dear (principal),

It was brought to my attention that there was a situation during lunch on 1/14/09 where a student hid my son's spoon at another table, it was found by a teacher in the lunch room who asked who's it was. When my son responded that it was his she made him throw his lunch away. This is a very unacceptable situation and a waste of money as well as food. I do not care what the situation seemed to be but the teacher had no right throwing his lunch away. If this continues I will be down there to speak with you and the teacher, unfortunately I do not expect to be this calm nor accomidating if this happens.

Thank you for your attention in this matter,
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feel free to put the principal and teacher in questions names in. :D

I so love making educational people nervious.

[Adam Blanchard]

something else just occured to me.. isn't denying a child a meal a form of child abuse? hummm.. I have to look into that one more....

[Adam Blanchard]

well.. apparently child neglect includes failing to provide a child with food, shelter, supervision, education or medical care. I don't know if taking away a childs food and not letting him/her eat counts or not but I bet it would make the school really damn nervious.

[LIBRA]

Well I am not going to take them to court for neglect over it or anything, its a small town. Same school I went to when I was a kid. They are for the most part good people. I dont know if she was having a bad day or what. Ive calmed down and I am going to swing by there after work today and talk to her about it, to see what happened and why. I am still mad but with out talking to her first I dont want to throw around accusations, ya know.

I may over react when things first hit me, but once I chew it around a bit I come to my senses.

Something will be worked out tonight. I think the worst thing I could do is be rash about it.

And I usually pack his lunch but it was pizza day and he loves there pizza. Its acually home made, they even make home made cookies still. I love small towns :D

[CowboyHippy]

places hate bad pr. If it's not resolved, write a letter to the editor of your local paper questioning the ability of the teachers and aides to deal with problems properly. any parent would agree that trashing the lunch is a bad deal.

i dont suppose he could get a hunger strike going with his classmates?

[Hippie Staff]

I would go into the principals office and explain that your child was reprimmanded for 1.) something stupid 2.) something he didn't do and that if his lunch or any child's lunch is ever thrown away, you'll call Child Services. If the kids were bad, she should of separated them. End of story.

A letter to the local paper would def. cause a ruckus if they blow it off - but a visit to the principal's office will ensure it is brought up in THIS WEEK'S meeting (tomorrow PM or Monday) and it won't happen again w/ out some whupass.

Seriously who takes lunch away. Anyway, let the principal handle it. They like to feel important. (ha)

[LIBRA]

Well my sister in law and I have a meeting with them tomorrow, cause this same teacher told my nephew one day while he was in computer class that if he didnt stop whisteling that she was going to rip his head phones off and throw them across the room. That is what he said, so umm ya its on now. This woman has issues for sure. So we are going together to meet with the principal and her. Poor kid just learned how to whistle and we all know how that goes.

What if lunch was the only meal kris got during the day, some kids only eat at school as sad as that is, its true Not in Kris's case but you know what I mean. I talked to my sister inlaw for an hour tonight Im fuming again for sure. My sister in law is an 8th grade teacher, same school district so Im glad she is going.

[Hippie Staff]

Good! I'm glad you're going in, and bringing in a teacher too...nice. Good luck - stand your ground. :)

[LIBRA]

Im nervous about the whole deal, I really dont like conflict. I know it will all go over smooth, the principal is super. And I really like to talk to this teacher woman to woman, mother to mother ya know.

[LIBRA]

well.. apparently child neglect includes failing to provide a child with food, shelter, supervision, education or medical care. I don't know if taking away a childs food and not letting him/her eat counts or not but I bet it would make the school really damn nervious.

Im going to bring this up, thanks! Im just hoping she doesnt come back with, well kris only had this and this on his try or something like that. Defending throwing his food away, ya know. Cause I want to keep my cool.

We shall see.:p

[Adam Blanchard]

That's ok. I don't think it should matter how much was on the tray or not, the point that she chucked the kids food without the kid saying he was done thus denying the kid his right to eat. lol I already think my kids school hates me. :bud:

[LIBRA]

I dont want them to hate me at all, I mean we all know eachother and our families, its a pretty tight nit community. She is a new teacher, just this year and I dont know her. I guess she lives alone, her kids are grown, my guess it she is menopausal,lol

There is like 15 kids on Kris's class, the whole school only has like 100 people in it total. Very rural, very peacefull. This will be resolved tonight, and hopefully they wont bring her back next year ;) I think she is retiring age.

[Hippie Staff]

She's a sadist and needs a reality check. There is one at my daughter's school. I've seen her make kids cry like it's a sport. Prett evil.

[LIBRA]

I have 2 nephews and 3 nieces in this school, plus kris so thats 6 cousins. They are all telling horror stories about her, "all she does is yell and scream"

I have a feeling she is going to het a huge reality check tonight.

[LIBRA]

Well she claims she asked Kris if he was done and he said yes, Im sure he was scared. I asked him what he said and he cant remember. But with a tray full of food I said she shouldnt have given him that option. The principle will keep her eyes and ears open. Thats about all that was accomplished. I said my peace and I was loud, very clear about my expectations. I hope nothing like this will ever happen again, I said that myself as well as other parents in our community dont take kindly to neglect.

[CowboyHippy]

so do you think they ment it or they were telling the crazy ranting hippie mom what she needed to hear to calm down?

[LIBRA]

A little of both, I think the principle ment it, i think this teacher is just a mean lady who needs to retire. I dont think she enjoys what she does anymore and needs to move on. I think by next year she will, Kris has mostly boys in his class and she has it in for boys. His class is pretty wild and she knows it.

[Adam Blanchard]

she is lucky she didn't have me for a kid, she may have had a desk or chair thrown at her. lol