big girls?

[kermit]

2 years 40 pounds... need I say more.



WTF why do girls get fat?

no person should be fat it's unhealthy!


My GF want's me to get a house and settle down the whole 9 yards but I don't think I can right now!

this post is not to be mean but a personal expression!

[Strawberry]

Wait.. is there a two year old who weighs 40 pounds or did you girlfriend gain 40 pounds after two years of dating? I'm confused

[1_LoVinVibe]

that reminds me of something i saw on the news yesterday.

A 2 year old boy who weighed 90 lbs
WHHaaaaaaTTT!!!!!
I just can't see how a mother could allow that to happen!?!!!!
:confused: :confused:

[kermit]

guess what It's my girl gaining 40 lb's and no kid was even produced!

at least I can deal with the love from being a father but not I love you and this chocolate cake!

[BandAide]

I've always been a thin girl. It's my body type. I've never worked out a lot or dieted, it's just the way I'm built.

Then, maybe 6 years ago I began using depo shots as birth control. In 9 months I gained 30 pounds. I don't know if this will help you with a visual, but at 5'11 this moved me from a size 6 to a size 10. And at 5 '11, a size 10 is still pretty small.

My boyfriend HATED it. He made me feel soooooooooooooooooooooo terrible about myself and my body. He made me feel as though I were ugly and undesirable. I don't think I've ever felt so badly about myself. And in reterospect, when looking at photos of myself and so on... I looked curvy for the first time in my life. I had boobs and hips and thighs and a little waiste. I also got more male attention at this time than I ever had before and ever have since.

But, I stopped taking depo and within 6 months all 30 pounds had magically disappeared.

I broke up with that boyfriend, and then another 20 pounds magically disappeared and I was between a size 2 and 4. I was a walking skeleton. And then I met my husband and I gained those 20 pounds back (I really needed to.) And then I got pregnant and I gained 73 pounds. And then I had a baby and I lost 73 pounds. And now I'm in my 4th month of pregnancy and I've proably gained about 7 pounds.

And my husband has never not been attracted to me. He has never not wanted to have sex with me. He has never stopped praising my beauty. He has never encouraged me to lose weight or discouraged my weight gain.

I suspect that when you love someone... you are just attracted to them no matter how their bodies shift. And when you do not love someone, you stop being attracted to them when their bodies change.

Maybe it's time for you to get out of your relationship?

There is someone out there who will love you girlfriend's beautiful 40 pounds, and who will celebrate and cherish her. You both deserve to be happy, and it doesn't sound as though you are.

[julesandjo]

I agree with Bandaide, but then again, I am one who needs to lose at least 40 pounds. I just think that if you love the person you love them, inside, not just out. I mean, I think that my husband accepts me the way I am, but he wants me to be happy, so when I am not happy being overweight he will do whatever he can to help me try to lose weight. Another thing to consider is the reason she may be gaining weight. Have you two stopped doing the active things you once did together? I know even before I got pregnant I started slowly gaining some weight as me and my guy began to "settle" in with each other. We stopped going out drinking and dancing. We stopped doing more of the active things and started staying home more watching tv and eating. Anyway, just some things to ponder. Maybe you are contributing to her weight gain and don't even know it. Many things determine weight gain, especially in a woman. Like Bandaide mentioned, the birth control thing. Different forms of birth control contribute to it. Maybe you could start going to the gym together, walk together or whatever. ;)

[Pedata]

I probably wiegh 50 pounds more than I did when I first my my husband. I have grey in my hair, also. And wrinkles. My boobs sag and look kind of flat. I have broken viens on my legs.

He wieghs more than when we first met. His hair has a lot of grey, is receding and very thin on top. He has lost a lot of teeth. His biceps are smaller. His belly is bigger.

No one stays young and thin. Age catches up and if you don't have real love then you have nothing.

Peace,
Cassandra

[kermit]

Then, maybe 6 years ago I began using depo shots as birth control. In 9 months I gained 30 pounds. I don't know if this will help you with a visual, but at 5'11 this moved me from a size 6 to a size 10. And at 5 '11, a size 10 is still pretty small.

she did get that thingy depo crap.. More government mind control crap!

I still lover and I have not said a thing.

But every girl I get regardless of age starts to get bigger as I date them???

and BTW boobs are bigger +++++ “me like dat!”

But I miss the thin little girl I used to think I could break in to with one little; gentle thrust!

But still has muscles to die for, umm in special places that is… :tiere025:

http://www.ani-community.net/forums/images/smilies/bukkakesmiley.gif

[kermit]

Poem (http://www.happyhippie.com/vb/showthread.php?t=585)


I wanted to start a team poem, about my girl.. well relationships.

:group_hug :bandit:

[freakyfairy]

I suspect that when you love someone... you are just attracted to them no matter how their bodies shift. And when you do not love someone, you stop being attracted to them when their bodies change.

Maybe it's time for you to get out of your relationship?

There is someone out there who will love you girlfriend's beautiful 40 pounds, and who will celebrate and cherish her. You both deserve to be happy, and it doesn't sound as though you are.

i completely agree with all you said band aide... i think kermit sounds a little shallow.... there's nothing wrong with gaining a little weight. curvy is beautiful. all body shapes and sizes are beautiful anyway. a beautiful soul will shine through any exterior......

[peach_blossom]

a beautiful soul will shine through any exterior......

I completely agree. :hippie:

[Strawberry]

Hmmm... I have mixed thoughts on this. Yes, I agree, when you love someone, you love them no matter what happens to their appearance. But, on the other hand, a person who loves someone should also try and keep up their appearance. I mean, I know all about the birth control weight gain, but alot of women (and some men) gain weight after they are in a secure relationship and never bother to lose it. In a way, I think that is taking your man for granted. I work hard to stay in shape, keep myself attractive to him because I love him and want him to be proud to be with me, no matter how many kids I have or how much my hormones change. After I had Rosie, my weight litterally dropped off. I fit into my old jeans within 3 days of giving birth. And I knew all my hard work to keep exercising and eating right during pregnancy paid off when we went out with friends a week after she was born and I was back to a size two. The look on his face when we met up with friends to say almost "Look at my beautiful girlfriend. She just had a baby and she's still in great shape" make me feel wonderful. He didn't say anything, but I could just tell. I think it's important to try and keep up your appearance for your loved one. Yes, people age and go grey and loosen up a bit, but you can still put some effort into it. I don't know, that's just my opinion.

[delta9]

Very well said, Strawberry, I feel quite similarily. :)

[LIBRA]

I think keeping up your appearence is important too it helps you feel sexy and alive in yourself but it shouldnt be expected. I am a curvy girl and I am beautiful with my curves I am however on a diet to try to tone the curves down only so my clothes fit alittle better and summers coming up soon, gotta get in those dress's and I always gain in the winter its like I am storing it up for survival!!!! anyway I have recently met someone who LOVES my curves, and wouldnt change a thing about me but I guess every ones different and if ya cant love them for who they are why bother loving????

[delta9]

That's the thing... If they love you, they shouldn't want to change your appearance, but if you love them, you should want to at least maintain your appearance :)

[peach_blossom]

That's the thing... If they love you, they shouldn't want to change your appearance, but if you love them, you should want to at least maintain your appearance :)

That and if they really love you they will love you even if the inevitble happens to your appearance, like wrinkles, sagging skin or impotence.

[BandAide]

It's not possible to maintain your appearance. People age.

Shouldn't we be a little wiser to the oppressive nature of these beauty standards around here?

[delta9]

I'm not talking about beauty standards, I'm more talking about keeping yourself in good health, which we should be all for around here ;)

This means excersizing, stretching, and eating right as much as you can, and preferebly regularily - if you want to do so; for me, it is often hard to find the motivation to do these things on a regular basis, but doing them because I want to look and feel good for someone I love is all the motivation I need. Excersize and good eating can help with your appearance, yes, but more importantly, it helps with your self confidence. I think we can all agree that self-confident people look better than people without self-confidence - even if they are not as "classically" beautiful. At least, that is how it works for me :)

[nappydread]

I still lover and I have not said a thing.

hmm....well i dont think this will solve anything! Why not work with her...exercise together, eat healthy together...If you still love her then you will support her and help her out man! It'll will strengthen the relationship in the long run...it makes me wonder what shes saying about you...:confused:

peace

[peach_blossom]

Build a bamboo bicycle together. Ride a bamboo bicycle together! :D

[Strawberry]

I'm saying being rail thin and pile on the make-up. Hell, I love women with curves!! Wish I had 'em!! And god knows I rarely do my hair or even wear any make-up. And yes, my body of course has changed. I have a few streatch marks, a bit curvier, sure, but still healthy. I think Delta's right... it's a happy medium. Find someone to love you for who you are, be it size 0 or 20, but don't let yourself go to waste because he/she is comitted to you. That's is all. :p

[BandAide]

I'm not talking about beauty standards, I'm more talking about keeping yourself in good health, which we should be all for around here ;)

This means excersizing, stretching, and eating right as much as you can, and preferebly regularily - if you want to do so; for me, it is often hard to find the motivation to do these things on a regular basis, but doing them because I want to look and feel good for someone I love is all the motivation I need. Excersize and good eating can help with your appearance, yes, but more importantly, it helps with your self confidence. I think we can all agree that self-confident people look better than people without self-confidence - even if they are not as "classically" beautiful. At least, that is how it works for me :)


It works for me too.

[BandAide]

Okay Ladies and Gents,

Let me just flip this around for a second. I agree with all of you who think you should do your best to keep a well maintained appearance after you are in a committed relationship to an extent.

I think that people should be healthy.

I do not think that healthy is always thin.

Did you know that it is more strenuous on your heart to yo-yo diet than it is to be consistently overweight for 20 years.

No one should be morbidly obese. No one should even be obese. But fat girls and fat boys are often very attractive. I've had girlfriends who were very overweight and who were incredibly beautiful. So, like you said Strawberry, whether you are a size 2 or a 20, just find someone to love you for who you are.

Here's what I do not agree with:

Saying that you will try to look good if you love someone implies that people who gain 50 pounds and don't work out and do not age well do not love their partners as much as people who do these things.

It also implies that you are responsible for someone elses attraction to you, when you are not. No one is responsible for who they are attracted to but themselves. If this were true, people could prevent their partners from cheating on them by becoming more attractive. This is clearly not the case. If someone is attracted to you, it is only minimally concerned with your appearance. I have known many, many beautiful people and have probably been attracted to three of them. And I am attracted to those three when they gain weight, when they lose weight, when they do not brush their teeth and when they are doubled over on the toilet after eating some bad clams.

Strawberry, I am incredibly envious of your weight loss after you had your baby. I remember asking you about it while we were pregnant and you said that you really hadn't gained a lot. I, on the other hand, also lost all my baby weight, but after it was gone, my hips had spread so much that I wore a size larger than I used to. I gained 73 pounds, and it DID NOT just fall off. It took me 8 months to lose it. I walked miles every day and I had to join weight watchers. I exercized and ate well through my entire pregnancy and I still gained it. I exercize and eat well now, and I have not. Every pregnancy is different. Every person's body is different. I am also about 7 years older than you and that makes a difference. My husband was also like, "hey look at my beautiful wife. She just had a baby. Can you tell?" He didn't say anything either... I just felt really good about it.

[kermit]

i completely agree with all you said band aide... i think kermit sounds a little shallow.... there's nothing wrong with gaining a little weight. curvy is beautiful. all body shapes and sizes are beautiful anyway. a beautiful soul will shine through any exterior......

not nice!



hmm....well i dont think this will solve anything! Why not work with her...exercise together, eat healthy together...If you still love her then you will support her and help her out man! It'll will strengthen the relationship in the long run...it makes me wonder what shes saying about you...:confused:

well everyone is so knowledgeable at happyhippie now a days, I did not say anything because it’s not nice. Stop and think about it for one second.. “hey baby you’re a fat ass but I still love you” WTF ever! Here is what I did. I smoked a little less switched to diet beer. Started working out now I can military press 180 3 times and run about 3 miles, did she ask or wonder or even look down once? NO! now all she has is a rock hard stud for a boyfriend who can’t keep the nasties off of him and away from his relationship.

So because ya’ll wanted me to tell her and be honest, because I do love her and ya’ll made me feel like a shallow piece of shit, I did.

YOU ALL SUCK!

Now she thinks I have been disappointed with her for 2 years and now she thinks I was wasting my time and only using her for sex now she did not want me to look at her anymore, She was crying. The whole 9 yards.

She did not call me this morning like she normally does, now I am sad and feel like a total asshole piece of shit and not such a shallow “grave” sitter, for now I have dug my self in. Everyone you are so nice in here but your advice made me hurt my girlfriend, and it was “my” bad choice.

Thanks to all of you; she now thinks I am disgusted by her, She wants to leave me, and she is still FAT!

Atleast I can go find me some new hottie Californian “that I do not want!” because I kept my body as rock hard as possible for MY NOW EX girlfriend!


P.S. I’ll say it for you… “Kermit you asked for an opinion and we all know what opinions are.”

[BandAide]

I'm sorry... I'll have to go review this thread... but who here told you to tell your girlfriend she was fat?

[RockyJay]

I'm sorry... I'll have to go review this thread... but who here told you to tell your girlfriend she was fat?

I have reviewed it BandAide. No one here told kermit to tell his girlfriend that.


Thanks to all of you; she now thinks I am disgusted by her, She wants to leave me, and she is still FAT!

Atleast I can go find me some new hottie Californian “that I do not want!” because I kept my body as rock hard as possible for MY NOW EX girlfriend!

Kermit, read what you wrote over and over again and pretend for a second that you didn't write it.

:hippie:

[nappydread]

hmmm..you probably should have thought about this a bit more before starting this thread and asking for opinions...


this post is not to be mean but a personal expression!


I did not say anything because it’s not nice

mean==not nice

"did not say anything" ...i dont get it. You started this thread...you must have started it by saying something...no?
:confused:

[kermit]

hmm....well i dont think this will solve anything! Why not work with her...exercise together, eat healthy together...If you still love her then you will support her and help her out man! It'll will strengthen the relationship in the long run...it makes me wonder what shes saying about you...:confused:

peace

When I started this thread I had not said a thing to her but have been think about it allot.. think is kinda like typing when you think about it, only the computer types back my brain does not sometimes. I am not a total ass hole and I was very nice to her when I asked her If she wanted to start walking with me and maybe go hiking on the weekends.

AND THEN SHE SAID "you think I'm fat don't you!"

"Aw' fuck" that was what I was thinking, I want her to quit smoking cigarettes more than anything else! I used to smoke and she did not quit with me. well she started to. but she did not want to get fat!. do you see my point?

I have never said mean hurtful things to my girlfriend, I love her a lot, and some people like fat girls; everyone is fine with them, But me I like skinny, blond girls that look good in a dress and like to wear heels, but she has made me feel pretty bad a few times in the past, and now I am in the best shape of my life, I look good, I feel good (sorta), but what's wrong?
*kermit scratches head
I Just do understand why my whole life this has happened, and I am sick of getting new girlfriends! I want this one!


*kermit smirks rolls eyes and says.... even if she's fat.. (in a voice similer to the country bear jamboree bass player)

So we could just have kids and say fuck it ya’ll say; you know buy a house, get married on top of a mountain that sort of thing. But she does not want kids and is very vocal about it. Kind of in your face I’m never going have kids and I am going to get my tubes tied.

….

But I want kids, I am Uncle kermit 5 times over now 4 from 1 sister :( I love being Santa clause for my family and their church. Not religious it’s just fun, I get to be that cool guy I always wanted to talk to.



Now I am really lost! Your right I should have not posted this thread! Sorry…

[BandAide]

Kermit,

I'm admittedly a little bit confused. Who called you an asshole? And who said you shouldn't have started this thread?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't this the way things went?

This thread started about you being dissatisfied with your girlfriend because of her weight gain. You said that she wanted to move in together and go to the next step, but that you were not willing to because she has gainee 40 pounds in 2 years.

Next, a bunch of people went on to tell you what they thought about weight gain.

Then, you told your girlfriend that you are not satisfied with her appearance and she got upset. (let me interject my opinion here, she SHOULD be upset. She deserves to be with someone who accepts her. You DO NOT accept her. You went on a public forum on the internet and called her fat. That's fine. You like skinny girls. You also deserve someone you want. You should go be with a skinny girl, but do not try to starve the curves off a chubby girl.)

Now you're saying that you wish she'd stopped smoking and you dislike that she smokes.

And

You're saying that your long term goals are not similar.

You just sound like a person who is unhappy in your relationship.

[kermit]

Kermit,

I'm admittedly a little bit confused. Who called you an asshole? And who said you shouldn't have started this thread?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't this the way things went?

This thread started about you being dissatisfied with your girlfriend because of her weight gain. You said that she wanted to move in together and go to the next step, but that you were not willing to because she has gainee 40 pounds in 2 years.

Next, a bunch of people went on to tell you what they thought about weight gain.

Then, you told your girlfriend that you are not satisfied with her appearance and she got upset. (let me interject my opinion here, she SHOULD be upset. She deserves to be with someone who accepts her. You DO NOT accept her. You went on a public forum on the internet and called her fat. That's fine. You like skinny girls. You also deserve someone you want. You should go be with a skinny girl, but do not try to starve the curves off a chubby girl.)

Now you're saying that you wish she'd stopped smoking and you dislike that she smokes.

And

You're saying that your long term goals are not similar.

You just sound like a person who is unhappy in your relationship.

good point. I think she is more disatisfied with me. but this is where I got confused. I posted on hip forums and got my A-hole reamed wide open by a bunch oy 13 -19 year old little girls, sorry for the confusion, I almost forgot people were generaly nice in here.

and it is true what they say about hipforum what a shit hole!

[RockyJay]

I think she is more disatisfied with me. but this is where I got confused.

I think you got confused there again dude. BandAide said you were the one who sounded unhappy in your relationship.

[kermit]

we'll leave it to the cards... take a look at the last card, If you don't want to really figure it all out. But I think I got now thanks for all you loving support and help! :animal-sm

[PEACE FROG]

I all but missed this thread. For what its worth.... I think fat girls are cute, desirable and very sexy. Mrs. PeaceFrog is actually quite trim, but it doesnt matter either way. Shes my wife, partner and mother of my son. I cherish and honor her. :) Besides California being a community property state... I could lose my ass!!! :D

[freakyfairy]

wow... super uber confusions.... :ufo: i'm just gonna go and hug a tree now.... :confused:

[kermit]

I can not see why everyone is judging me so harshly?

I and found the not all people in this forum like fat as much as they say ask treehugger put my on the ignor list.

fine fine you can ignor me.

This is not at all how I expected this community to be.

luv u all ;)

[mountain_mama]

I can not see why everyone is judging me so harshly?

I and found the not all people in this forum like fat as much as they say ask treehugger put my on the ignor list.

fine fine you can ignor me.

This is not at all how I expected this community to be.

luv u all ;)

:confused: kermit you are hopping around all over the place. Where in the ribbet are you coming from??? Nobody is judging you harshly, in fact considering your posts I think the majority of people here have been very patient with you. I went back and re-read this this thread and still doen't see how others are judging you so harsh and if they are so what???? I mean you put yourself out there by asking for opnions on girls who have gained weight in a very crass manner.

Ok, it is very rare that I become annoyed with people I mean after all this is just a forum and I respect the fact that everyone is entitled to an opnion and may express themselves in a manner that I don't care for. The world is not run according to me but good God your whining is starting to seriously make me not even want to check into these threads anymore :mad:

Get over yourself!

And yes now I am judging you!

[kermit]

I feel the same way. I am sick of it and I'm not checking all the posts like I used to. This was a very cool place. I hope it becomes a very cool place again. But if it keeps up like it's been going, then I'm going to find something else to do. I like the posts in here, the ones by the very cool people, which is most of you, but someone is just posting to start stuff. Mainly to get attention, I think. What a waste of bandwidth!

sorry....


judge not or you are not ready for judgement

the road of life is rockey, and you may stumbel too, but while your laughing at me, someone else is judgeing you.

[shaina]

[QUOTE=kermit]good point. I think she is more disatisfied with me. but this is where I got confused. I posted on hip forums and got my A-hole reamed wide open by a bunch oy 13 -19 year old little girls, sorry for the confusion, I almost forgot people were generaly nice in here.
QUOTE]
13-19 year old little girls most of the people on here are over that and alot of the people who posted were guys

[kermit]

i completely agree with all you said band aide... i think kermit sounds a little shallow.... there's nothing wrong with gaining a little weight. curvy is beautiful. all body shapes and sizes are beautiful anyway. a beautiful soul will shine through any exterior......


yes yes yes

kermit is shallow

and yet he still loves his girl.

but what to do.

maybe open a can of STFU

[delta9]

Kermit's girlfriend isn't even that big, I mean, what about CAMEL FOOT.

[shellbug]

i was fluffy when i met my hubby (195) and i am fluffier now (216) 11 years - 3 babies later- my knees and back are going bad and i have a little trouble with my heart - diabetes is a real upcoming possibility

my husband loves every curve and worships my body, but encourages me (and often nags me) about my diet, water drinking, supplement, herbalism, etc. because he wants a long lifetime with me (in better health) and is willing to sacrifice some of the fluff he loves to keep me around longer - says he could not stand it if he lost me

by the way - he is tall slim and sexy and never gains a pound no matter what he eats - he is also 7 years younger than me ( i am 43)

[kermit]

i was fluffy when i met my hubby (195) and i am fluffier now (216) 11 years - 3 babies later- my knees and back are going bad and i have a little trouble with my heart - diabetes is a real upcoming possibility

my husband loves every curve and worships my body, but encourages me (and often nags me) about my diet, water drinking, supplement, herbalism, etc. because he wants a long lifetime with me (in better health) and is willing to sacrifice some of the fluff he loves to keep me around longer - says he could not stand it if he lost me

by the way - he is tall slim and sexy and never gains a pound no matter what he eats - he is also 7 years younger than me ( i am 43)


how can u say "Loves every curve" and "nags you about how fat you are???"

maybe he gave up?

or he can get no better!

or can he, I hear young skinny girls love older men with money!

he does have $$$ right, if not you are ok .. I guess

credit card whores are normal also!

[kermit]

Kermit's girlfriend isn't even that big, I mean, what about CAMEL FOOT.


EWWWWWWWWW

d4 f007

[mellowman05]

i dont know what you actually said to your girlfriend but all i can say is that you have to be careful with girls and their weight cause my girlfriend is a recovering anorexic and she still is trying to overcome the pressure put on by society to be thin. if you really love your girlfriend then you will learn to be accepting of her as a person. just talk to her and im sure she will come to if you still want her in your life.

[kermit]

i dont know what you actually said to your girlfriend but all i can say is that you have to be careful with girls and their weight cause my girlfriend is a recovering anorexic and she still is trying to overcome the pressure put on by society to be thin. if you really love your girlfriend then you will learn to be accepting of her as a person. just talk to her and im sure she will come to if you still want her in your life.


more like I want her to be alive when I am old!

she looks good, o yes. and so sexy. BUT she smokes, doesn't work out much if at all and then to start gaining weight,,, woha baby time to kill 1 of your bad habbits. so she did, and so did I. and now we're happy :) and we have a pretty garden :cheers:

[beadiebeauty]

this thread is really shallow



god kermit!

girls dont get fat on purpose!

[delta9]

While I agree wholeheartedly that kermit can come off quite shallow, he's not THAT shallow:

she looks good, o yes. and so sexy. BUT she smokes, doesn't work out much if at all and then to start gaining weight,,, woha baby time to kill 1 of your bad habbits. so she did, and so did I. and now we're happy and we have a pretty garden
Awww :hippie:

[beadiebeauty]

awwwwwww :)

[forrest]

guess what It's my girl gaining 40 lb's and no kid was even produced!

at least I can deal with the love from being a father but not I love you and this chocolate cake!

according to my Boirythm I hav no passion

http://www.facade.com/biorhythm/personal/?Name=Erick+Edwin+Severns&Month=1&Day=04&Year=1976&tMonth=2&tDay=20&tYear=2005&range=7

the link for your own is right on the home page

HERE for your reading (http://taken5.com/index.php)

When I hit the biorhythm link it ask me if I am compatible with Erick Edwin Severns, I don't think so!
:D
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I'm sorry, but I'm not going to apologize anymore

[redthewitch75]

Well, here's my 2 cents...

I am 5'2ish and weigh 165lbs. The thing is I don't even look like I weigh 165 (I look like I weigh about 135), but I can tell that I am overweight. I used to weigh between 115 and 120. My ex always called me fat and other mean and nasty things. My boyfriend, however, constantly tells me how beautiful I am, how much he likes my body, etc and even though I know I weigh too much, I definitely feel better about my body because of his unyielding worship of my body. I mean, he knew me when I was at my normal weight, but he didn't even realise that I had gained any weight from the time we first knew each other, to when we actually got together. Ah...what was my point here? I guess I have none, I just know what it feels like to be the girl with the extra 40 lbs. And all the difference it makes being treated as a goddess...I still weigh the same, but I feel better about it with my bf's acceptance of who I am. If you really love her, you should stop being so petty about this. Try to do things as a couple that allow you to be active...go hiking, ride bikes, whatever...maybe if she feels as if you support her, she'll have a little more motivation to losing some weight, instead of feeling bad about herself because of your aversion to her body. Because let me tell you, I am more motivated to lose that extra bit of weight now, because of how my guy is towards me, than when I was with my ex and was constantly being told how fat I was (though I am not even FAT, per se, as I said people can't believe when I tell them how much I weigh.).

[LIBRA]

Because let me tell you, I am more motivated to lose that extra bit of weight now, because of how my guy is towards me, than when I was with my ex and was constantly being told how fat I was (though I am not even FAT, per se, as I said people can't believe when I tell them how much I weigh.).


that is soo true!!!

Its hard to get motivated when someone reminds you and tells you, you are fat or whatever, its like you dont care at that point. I understand what your sayin completly!

[CowboyHippy]

well,

it seems a decent way to show her you still love her, and how you feel would be to sit her down and have her read this post from start to finish. If this post doesn't say I love ya for who you are then I am at a loss for advice. and it would be a very honest approach

[redthewitch75]

that is soo true!!!

Its hard to get motivated when someone reminds you and tells you, you are fat or whatever, its like you dont care at that point. I understand what your sayin completly!


That is exactly how it was with me and the ex. I was like, you know what...BALDY. Ha. I mean he had hair when I met him, but I wasn't complaining about his hair loss. But my new guy, when I mention something about losing weight (which I especially need to do now that we are planning a baby, because I gain SUPER amounts of weight when I am pregnant), he tells me how much he loves me like I am, loves me no matter what, but I should do whatever makes me feel better. He is THE BEST guy in the world. I am definitely sending his mom a thank you card on his birthday, cause she did an awesome job with him.

[Pedata]

in 23 years of marriage my husband has never brought up wieght. I do tho, because it sometimes worries me. He once told me, during one of my whine-fests (about my wieght), that I could get as big as a house and he would still love me.


...nothing like real love :)

-Cass

[angymnast247]

I am definitely sending his mom a thank you card on his birthday, cause she did an awesome job with him.

awwwwwww ;)

my stance with weight is that if one is making a effort to stay healthy then that is all. healthy dosnt mean thin or beautifull, it just means they take care of themselves. also exersize should not be a form of punishment or work, it should be mostly fun and definately a way to strengthen the mind and body. as a full time gymnast i know the pros and cons of exersizing.
peace and love
~alyssa

[kermit]

awwwwwww ;)
as a full time gymnast i know the pros and cons of exersizing.
peace and love
~alyssa

and.... your not a fat ass lazy slob sitting on the couch playing X-box.
we have all grown up now and we use computers.

sorta like cars, men get fat, car gets bigger or faster.

[freakyfairy]

Firstly, kermit, you confuse the f**k out of me!!! but hey...everyone has their own style...lol
my weight fluctuates like crazy...but i've never weighed more than 154 pounds....however people have always called me chubby or fatty and the rest of it but i dont care....i'm above the weight i'd prefer to be but i know that i can always change that.....

[kermit]

Firstly, kermit, you confuse the f**k out of me!!! but hey...everyone has their own style...lol
my weight fluctuates like crazy...but i've never weighed more than 154 pounds....however people have always called me chubby or fatty and the rest of it but i dont care....i'm above the weight i'd prefer to be but i know that i can always change that.....

Are you Flirting with me?

[freakyfairy]

What the hell gives you that idea?!!!! nope i'm not flirting with you..... why would i want to do that? lol....
you're nuts! :)

[kermit]

Exactly!

All I can say is that my life is pretty plain
You don't like my point of view
Ya think that I'm insane
Its not sane... its not sane
:D