How to be romantic?

[Natural Mystic]

Hello,
I'd like to become a more romantic fellow. Since I am not very goodlooking, I really need to develop some good techniques and ideas. Any suggestions?
Peace

[delta9]

Romantics is all from the heart. Regardless of what you think about your appearance, using "romantic techniques and ideas" merely for personal gain is... wrong.

I don't know, I wish I could be more helpful, but some people are romantic and some people are not. If you TRY to be romantic, you'll just come off slightly fake, best case scenario.

... The truth is, you're probably fairly romantic and just don't know it, yet :). What you really need is some confidence. Confidence does a lot.

[Natural Mystic]

Thanks Delta9, I agree that confidence and heartfulness are essential. I guess I'm asking this because my friend has expressed the opinion that most guys she knows are not romantic. I suppose I'm confused about that. So, I'm just wondering what I can do to be more romantic if I'm not doing it already and if there are some things that most gals appreciate. I'd like to steer clear of becoming too sappy or cheesy or fake or whatever.
Peace yo

[julesandjo]

Hey there, my husband was (and still can be sometimes) the most romantic man. I admit, I love it. Some things he did for me were just simple little things but they were so romantic to me. Like he would fill my bathtub and put candles around it for me and fix me a drink and bring in to me, and actually bathe me. Might sound corny or cheesy to some, but it really isn't in my opinion, but it is my husband's character to be romantic. Other things were just simple things like if he were working night shift he would have soft music playing for me when I'd get home with a note for me and usually some kind of special snack or dessert or something. A special glass set out and a special liqour or something like that. The note would say something special like he hopes I enjoy my evening, wish he could be there with me. I must admit we've gotten away from alot of the romance over the years, which is a shame. Couple of kids, bills, life......guess you know what I mean. But anyway, we do still try from time to time and we are generally giving of ourselves on a daily basis, trying to do something kind for one another, etc. But you can be romantic without being drastically out of character. I mean, the rose petal thing in the bathtub and the bed is nice, but maybe a little "uncharacteristic" for some people. But I think little notes, poems if it's your thing, and just little kindnesses are romantic. Once I had a whole breakfast table set up for my husband for when he came home from working night shift. I had orange juice chilling in an icebucket and milk (just small bottles) and a nice bowl for cereal, his favorite cereal, a banana, a nice cloth napkin, english muffins and whatever else. Basically, I was already gone for work when he came home and the table was set nice with a flower in a vase and his favorite breakfast basics. Nice dishes and glass. I even made a placemat to go under everything out of one of those paper placemats. I colored it and wrote I love you stuff all over it and then covered it with clear contact paper. Anyway he loved it. Those are just some of the romantic things we have done for each other. Be creative and let it come from your heart. Mean it and don't use it just for self gratification and I feel it will automatically be romantic. ;)

[redthewitch75]

I have to say, the simple things can be most romantic. If a gesture is thoughtful and sincere, it is romantic. I myself am a hopelessly sentimental and romantic soul.